Forgiveness

There are times in our lives when we become hurt, disappointed, or irritated by people around us (some we love, others are perfect strangers). I know my feelings have been hurt before and I know I have hurt others as well. One of the things I have learned over the last couple of years, however, is that forgiveness of yourself and others brings inner peace. Holding grudges against people does not do that. In fact, when you keep pain or anger inside, it only hurts yourself. Don't get me wrong -- you are allowed to feel hurt when someone inflicts it -- but sometimes you just need to learn to let go.

When people repeatedly hurt you, it is especially important to forgive them for a few reasons. One, so you can move on. Two, so that they know you have forgiven them. This act of forgiveness does not mean that you have to continue allowing them to hurt you though. Occasionally, you have to eliminate people from your life that cause repeated pain (especially if they have a pattern of this behavior over many years). You should forgive them, but you do not have to continue to allow them to affect you or have a place in your life. Although breaking ties with people can be hurtful, sometimes it is simply necessary.

Letting go of your pain and anger can give you freedom to focus on positive growth in other areas of your life. Forgive people freely of their mistakes to a point, but don't let perpetually negative/hurtful people participate in your journey -- you deserve better.